OK everyone so let me into your world so that I can help you out. Whatever is on your mind just ask the question and I will give you the answer that you Need to hear.
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Eugene I TOTALLY agree that a woman is acting stupid for staying with the man that they would allow to beat on them. Hitting is just unacceptable!
ReplyDeleteAnd that is your answer Because Anthony L. Lewis Knows Best!
ReplyDeleteA rhetorical question I'm sure. However, stupid is not the exact word I would use. It's more like somewhere along the line, perhaps long before the current abuser gained control of her life, she lost respect/love for herself. If a man or woman hits once, they will hit again. The key is to walk away the first time and not become an enabler to the abuser. Set the tone that love does not physically hurt! I have had friends who have gone through this, the main thing they say is that he is stronger then I am. What they don't realize is that their mental strength is what beats the abuser. The longer they stay the more strength/power/control the abuser gains. Walk the first time the the power turns. If kids are involve it's a no brainer ~ LEAVE!!! :)
ReplyDeleteAbusive is just not physical. Abusive covers mental as well. It's probably more commonplace than physical abuse.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely Angel ~ physical, mental, emotional, and the same applies in what I said. To define mental/emotional more clearly. If the person you are with makes you feel smaller/worthless/always wrong, a failure to their needs through their words and gestures that is non-physical abuse. Another form is where they cut you off from friends and/or family, sometimes even forbidding a job outside the home. When the person is isolating you strictly to their world.
ReplyDeleteAll so true and Angel you were very missed!
ReplyDelete@Linda - What about people who are serial cheaters? What do you think that falls under?
ReplyDeletePound on a woman? Eugene...I'm gonna pound on you..lol
ReplyDeleteWell it depends on what we are referring to with the term pound on. Do you mean like smashing?
ReplyDeleteHave you hit a woman, Eugene?
ReplyDeleteYes I have. I have hit a woman after being hit so yeah I think I was angry. But this you already knew of Eugene.
ReplyDeleteSo that someone was a girl I'm guessing.
ReplyDeleteChoked out a woman?
ReplyDeleteHabitual cheating is different then abuse although it does abuse the commitment and respect thereof. However, cheating on that level is typically not an act of intent against their partner. There is some sort of void within that person where fulfillment is not met. This is not necessarily a sexual fulfillment. Cheating can fall into a split category because in some relationships, although not the normal is an implied agreement. Meaning, most cheaters are known to be cheaters prior to getting involved. For whatever reason the partner thinks they can change that. Some intentionally have a blind eye as a trade off to the bigger picture in their scheme of things. You also have those people, more so women fall into this, I can fix him. I can be enough so that he/she does not cheat. My love is strong enough to make them not feel the need to go elsewhere. To lean on the *abusive* side as I believe you have asked, the same applies. If a person feels abused by the cheating, then they are abuse on an emotional level and they need to leave ... period!
ReplyDeleteProbably his babies mom before they had kids.
ReplyDelete@Eugene said... I choked ----
ReplyDeleteWas that during a sexual encounter? It kinda sounds like that. I don't quite get the choke me to intensify the orgasm, but hey some are just more to the edge that way. Personally, I would not engage in anything that could cause death or at minimal long term brain damage :)
Maybe he meant his chicken.
ReplyDeleteI am amazed at what women will put up with to be with a man.
ReplyDeleteEugene, what age were you and why did you feel you couldn't control your actions? Even children know they're not supposed to hit another kid.
ReplyDeleteThe thing is...as a female I know we can push buttons like no other. A lot of females know exactly the right thing to say to make someone explode and they think they can hide behind them having a vagina as a defense. Problem is, these days dude don't really care about that. And these females should realize that.
ReplyDeleteAt the same time, dudes or whoever should just walk away. You can control your actions and you know the woman is purposely pissing you off and basically daring you to hit her. It's up to you to be smart and not let her play you. The popos don't care about her pushing your buttons, they're only gonna care that you assualted someone.
@Eugene - What does YOU choking a woman have to do with me being the picture of perfection? Don't attack me cuz you couldn't control yourself and let some female manipulate you.
ReplyDeleteI have said and done things out of rage...but I'm smart enough not to put my hands on someone. Especially a dude that can beat my ass.
The po-po is a bit different with domestics now. (1) they don't need the woman to be a complainant anymore, they act as the complainant/witness. This was due to woman not pressing charges out of fear.
ReplyDelete(2) even though a man has struck a woman, if she struck him back they will both be charged for assault. I think that is a bit whacked, because if a man would be his hands on me I would certainly fight back as to defend myself. This happened with a family member that was in my home during the incident, so I know for sure this is what they do.
crazy i think :(
Eugene you did say that you were young and couldn't control your self but now you just informed us that you were 22. At the age of 22 you should know right and wrong and that chocking a woman is wrong. So again at that age how could you not control your self? You had me thinking that you were like 6 years old.
ReplyDeleteNOW to be fair to the men out there ... woman can also be the abusers, on every level. Men should not tolerate any abuse either and should not become enablers to their female abusers.
ReplyDeleteI punched a hole in my door. Better than his face, don't you think?
ReplyDeleteWell the thing Linda is that it all depends on the cop that arrives on the scene. They will decided how to deal with the situation based off of the story that is being told to them.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was a kid my mom beat the shit out of me for hitting a girl so after that i never hit a girl again My xwife when we first started dating she tryed to hit me alot when she got mad and i would just go put a hole in a wall or something after about the 3rd or 4th time i sat her down and told her if she ever hits me again were done she never hit me again she new out of pride i could walk away
ReplyDeleteI don't know why women think they can hit a dude and get away with it. Keep your hands to yourself, children..lol
ReplyDeleteI'm not hitting a dude...cuz he might hit back and I can't fight.
@ Eugene, my first husband, his father was abusive to his mother, it flowed into his first marriage ... him and his first wife would go toe to toe. Before we married, I made one thing clear to him ... I was not his mother nor his ex-wife and would not tolerate him ever putting his hands on me. One day he aimed a broom handle at me and came a bit to close with it during an argument. I happened to be in the freezer, in which I casually grabbed a frozen chuck roast and beat the crap out of him with it. No I did not cause any injury other then he was sore, I did not strike him in the head/face. Needless to say it made my point. We did marry, however, many years later, our son was in the middle of a night terror, I had to wake him to help with our son so he wouldn't hurt himself. He was not one to wake up easily and quite indignant if woken up out of a dead sleep. He came in the to help, but was belligerent to the point that he raised his hand to me with a motion to push me. I filed for divorced after that. He and I had a far better divorce relationship then a marriage and were very good friends up til his death last Oct. I always had his love, and gained a mutual respect that failed us both during the marriage.
ReplyDeleteAngel, when adrenaline and instinct kick in, you'll be surprised what you can do :)
ReplyDeleteAnthony the cop had the full story, not based on just what they had told him, but what I had told him which bears credibility. (btw did I ever tell you that I am a retired Lieut out of philly? lol).
ReplyDeleteI cant see myself as a angry person but the last year or two with my x i had so much anger
ReplyDeleteI know now that it was my own insecurities from a loveless marriage now i dont remember the last time i was angry if i feel my self start to get upset i remember a verse from the book of james (slow to speak quick to listen slow to anger) anger only hurts never helps
@angel lol
ReplyDelete@Justin - Do you get along with your ex now?
ReplyDelete@Justin, i let my anger with my x, go a long time ago..... I am a better person 4 it!
ReplyDelete@angel yea she takes advantage of me alot when it comes to my daughter but thats ok
ReplyDelete@kerr yes you are
Hi Big Genius!!!!
ReplyDelete@Justin, my x does to, but what the hell, if you need a child to take advantage of me, so be it....not like he is going to $$$$ shoot when she gets here, he never ever did!!!!
ReplyDelete@Ant, i am getting so ansy......6 days!!!!!! and i will know...i might call you crying either way!
@Ant, until you have whose baby is it....you are not Jerry Springer...... but i think he is yours!!!!!
ReplyDelete@kerr my x just knows i cant say no to seeing bella so when its my sat off it seems she always has to do something and i end up taking bella i have her alot so i only get everyother sat off
ReplyDeleteSo glad I/we never had the whole visitation bs to deal with. Even tho the divorce/custody agreement was every other weekeneds, he had the kids whenever he asked or they wanted to see him. Every holiday our kids were with both families, half the day with me, the other half with him to overnight. We never punished the kids or opposing families because we counldn't cut the marriage. Our kids and we were lucky that way. Shame more separate parent households can't work that way for the kids.
ReplyDelete@Linda i tried, his new wife, is very scared i am going to take him away....from 2500 miles....i feel the same shame on them....
ReplyDelete@linda are custody agreement is 50/50 one week i have her 4 days the next week i have her 3 the week when i have her 3 i have sat night off thats are agreement but i always have her on sat i might get one sat off a month if that.
ReplyDeletewhat really bothers me is that she really never wants to see her if i dont have her my xs mom does and my daughter misses her
@linda this sat is my sat off and i have her lol
ReplyDeleteSometimes it's so hard to keep them out of the adult range of fire, including a less then interested parent. Just remember, stay neutral despite how you feel, THEY will figure it all out themselves in the end, as long as they have one parent that remains in their best interest, emotionally and otherwise. It all goes back to that karma thing. :)
ReplyDeleteSomebody pinch Anthony and get him back to typing here .. lol. Busy work day again?
ReplyDeleteSorry everyone I took a early lunch and I have some envelopes that I am suppose to be stuffing to help out another department :( See how I felt yesterday Linda? But to add to the subject my custody agreement with the kids is perfect for me. I pick them up on Sunday at 6pm to the following Sunday 6pm when I drop them. My ex wife takes advantage of me too because she NEVER drops them off or picks them up. She just started driving like 3 years ago so I tolerated it then and now she has excuses like my husband needs the car. So I just don't even ask her anymore. And Now Your Momma Knows!
ReplyDeleteWe lived within a few blocks of each other, so once the kids were old enough they would go back and forth as they wanted to. We were all fortunate to handle it all so well. I really miss him not being here now, still so surreal even though he will be gone a year at the end of the month.
ReplyDelete@Anthony - That's a little bit of a hike.
ReplyDeleteJust a lil random shout out for a sec ~
ReplyDeleteKudos to my parents who have been married 53yrs today.
Odd part is, some of what they have gone through most would have divorced over these days.
Speaking of marriage...does anyone know a couple that has been married forever and after all their kids move out, they realize they don't really like each other or want to spend time alone with each other? I always wondered if they knew that while the kids were in the house or did they just figure it out when the kids left? LOL!!
ReplyDeleteBoth ... and if you notice there are a lot of older married couples that sleep in separate bedrooms.
ReplyDeleteOh I totally agree with you Linda! I know that older couples totally deal with a lot more than younger couples now a days.
ReplyDeleteIs that always a good thing that older couples deal with more?
ReplyDeleteNot deal with more on a daily as per say ... but over the lifetime together. They were raised in a different time where death do you part meant just that. Not meaning just with big things, which many have divorced over, (infidelity, abuse), but all the bumps in the road that ppl learn to get through as a couple, not throw their hands up and say fk it - fk u. Marriage is a world of growth, compromise, enduring, and managing all things.
ReplyDeleteYeah Angel actually Darron told me that he thinks his parents doesn't really want to be together anymore but they are staying together for his sister to live at home and finish high school. So I am sure that these couples are real.
ReplyDeleteOn a more personal level I know for a fact that my grand parents can't stand each other. And my uncle which is their youngest child got him self in to trouble years ago and is in prison. Once he is out he will be deported back to Jamaica. My grand mom still looks at him as the baby and said that she wants to go back to Jamaica when he does to keep him out of trouble. I KNOW that if they really go back to Jamaica they will SURELY separate!
ReplyDeleteIf a female you were dating or married too decided that she no longer wanted to give head no more because she don't like doing it. Is that a relationship killer for the men? And she gave head in the beginning of the relationship and this came out of no where. And there is no convincing her to change her mind.
ReplyDeleteYes Bomont I would have to say that for me the relationship would come to a close. Especially if she once did it before in the relationship. A VERY good reason would be needed which I really wouldn't accept one regardless of what it was because she previously did it.
ReplyDeleteNow if you just decided to no longer swallow then OK I can let that go if you once use to do it in the beginning. But to totally cut out head all together, Oh Hell NO!!!!
ReplyDeleteDoes any of the ladies have any insight to add to this? I know you are woman but what are your takes on this question?
ReplyDeleteAngel?
ReplyDeleteLinda?
ReplyDeleteKerrie?
ReplyDeleteHello?
ReplyDeleteBomont my love....I am still hurt over that one! LOL!!!!
ReplyDeleteMe and Bomont were talking about this a couple of days ago. He actually said that it would be relationship killer. I couldn't believe it....Who knew that head was that damn important????
ReplyDeleteActually most men cheat because they have the self-control of a 2 year old...lol
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't end a relationship because the dude refused to give head....I think there's more important things for me to be worried about.
ReplyDeleteIf your 15 year old daughter got pregnant would you push her to abort it?
ReplyDeleteYes.
ReplyDeleteIf she was 35...I'd tell her to abort it.
ReplyDeleteKAPOW!LOL!
I would push my daughter to abort it.
ReplyDeleteLol @angel
ReplyDeleteOK this is to Angel, the fact that woman are more emotional and need a emotional connection to cheat will ALWAYS be the reason why you resent and do not under stand why men cheat.
ReplyDelete@Bomont I would TOTALLY have my 15 year old daughter get a abortion!!!!
ReplyDeleteI agree with Angel.
ReplyDeleteAnother question related to my last one. If a 13 year old boy has a baby. Who is responsible for child support? Do the burden goes on his parents until he is able to work and how do they calculate the payment if he never had a job?
ReplyDeleteThe boy and the girl's parents will be responsible. And the support would be calculated by minimal wages in the state that the baby was born. And that is your answer Because Anthony L. Lewis Knows Best!
ReplyDelete@Anthony - Yes, you are right about that. I have a sense of pride in knowing that my vagina doesn't control my life...lol
ReplyDeleteWOW I have alot of catching up to do here!
ReplyDeleteGiving head - Let me give you guys a little heads up as to why some woman stop giving head after awhile. Some men have a tendency to make it seem like it's mandatory. If a woman begins to feel as if it's more of a chore and not a gift a pleasure she looses interest in doing so. Some men even are abrupt about by words or by just pushing her head down. If so, I would change your method with a bit more sensitivity.
Linda it is Mandatory. Lol!!!
ReplyDeleteAbortion - I do have a personal preference about this, but will remain objective. If a teenage daughter becomes pregnant as difficult as it is you have to let her make the decision. With that being said, it is the parents' responsibility to let her be informed on every level. Abortion, raising the child, and adoption, (open and closed ones). If you don't allow her to make an informed/supportive decision it will change her far more that she will be able to handle. I have dealt with all 3 levels of this situation, including being an adoptee myself.
ReplyDelete@Angel my vaginia does not control my life either....but i wouls appreciate a couple of ya know invites every now and than......nope not me....nothing, i am in a dry spell...it sucks...not putting my pic up, but it is KERRIE
ReplyDelete@Linda i agree totally and the only reason i can say that,. is i was rapped at 13, gave the baby up at 14, and last year i met her, and she met her sister, i never thought i would see her again....most people look at her as just another girl...to me, she is the one i had to give away...what the hell was i gonna do with a kid at 14..... but it turned out the way it was supposed to, she does not look as much like me as Tina does, but our voice, our speach, and our characteristics are the same!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteIt may very well be ... but there should still be some *consideration* with it. I have no problem with it ... don't expect what one is not willing to give is my opinion :)
ReplyDeleteKerr ... first off I know the agony you went through from 2 very personal sides of it.
ReplyDeleteI have a family member whom was pregnant at 13, although an emotional pregnancy with all the berating/hiding/etc.. she came out of it far more mentally healthier in making the decision for an open adoption. She is now a RN and beginning her life with a sense of peace. A great thing just within her age group itself.
One thing to keep in mind ... a pregnancy does not mean a girl has ruined her life. It means that she has made it a bit more difficult with her goals, NOT executed them.
All very deep answers! But I'm still shooting for the abortion.
ReplyDeleteIf you were a woman/girl and ever had one you may explore other options in hindsight. Hence only advising to explore all options before making a life altering decision, no matter which decision is made :-)
ReplyDeleteWhatever ANT!!! but i think Abortion is the "new" birth control...if you would wear a condom, no problem!!! But that is my personal opinion
ReplyDelete$300 for Google TV? SAY WHAT? That is gonna have to go on my xmas list.
ReplyDelete@Anthony, i do think an abortion would hurt! I remember after i gave Abbe up, i always wondered what she was like, but now i know, i wonder if the thoughts of "what if" come into play at all
ReplyDeleteMedical and keeping my house is on mine :(
ReplyDeleteOCT 12 is on mine!!!!
ReplyDeleteOctober 12 is the most beautiful wonderful loving woman's birthday....my mama!
ReplyDeleteDifferent reasoning for me but OK
ReplyDelete@Kerr ~ if or when the *what if* comes, as long as she is a thriving happy girl/young lady the *what if* will be a lot more bearable :)
ReplyDelete@Bomont...my 15 yr. old better not get preggo, but if so, i would hope for an etopic, that way she would have to ge6t an abortion, to save her life
ReplyDeleteI've had a forced one .. it's no fun and devastating thinking that maybe they/I was wrong in doing so. Of course that being a pregnancy after getting my tubes done and having 10 previous pregnancies with only 3 live births would have some bearing on that.
ReplyDeletethat is very true Linda, but i try to instill virginity on my daughter
ReplyDeleteSee I wonder if some woman would think differently if they could take the spirit of some who once were face with the decision to have an abortion but decided against it and died during the birth of that child OR died by the hands of that very child once they grow up and murdered their parent for drugs. Then I wonder if your thoughts would be different?
ReplyDeleteNope ... life is life and there for a reason no matter how it came about. If I did not specifically chose that life to be there, then I am not the one to end it outside of extenuating circumstances. Even if the conception was out of carelessness, just as my waking up tomorrow is not of my full choice :). I don't condemn those who make the choice, other then the baby machines with repetitious abortions with no regard.
ReplyDeletelolol@Ant....wow...if they died we would never ever know!!!!
ReplyDeleteOk Linda how about this hypothetical situation. So it is the year 2028 and science is on the raise with amazing technology. So doctors have the ability to tell a person whether their child would grow up to be evil or not. Like extreme evil in their heart! Like the kind of evil serial killers develop. And you were pregnant and your baby was found to have that trace of evil. So what would you do? And before you answer that, also doctors are able to give you a abortion which was painless and once completed it would be like you were never pregnant. The only reminder would be your very own memory. What would you do?
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with Linda, it is not my right to choose for my friends, but whatever decision they make i will stand behind them(we all know this) but i do have a problem with the girls/women who have abortions all the time, and then they wonder why can't i get pregnant....they ruined thier bodies so much, it just won't happen, once i understand, twice i can live with, 3rd time, you should keep that child!!!!
ReplyDelete@Anthony, i will be too old to concieve.....no problem!!!
ReplyDelete@Anthony, it is different for men...they don't have to make the choice, or carry the child, or bring the child home! They can totally walk away from it!!!!!!!
ReplyDelete@Ant.....don't you agree?
ReplyDelete@Ant i am not getting e-mail alerts....can you look into that?
ReplyDeleteYeah I would agree if I could work a decent job that's not under the table and NOT have to pay child support!
ReplyDeleteResearch of the brain has shown certain areas different from the norm in ppl with certain significant aspects, such as *killer* type commonality in brains studied. However, a lot of who a person becomes has to do with environmental influence. If aware of certain conditions/abnormalities regarding behavior and such it can be avoided with proper direction/treatment. Example, A friend has a child who had massive damaging seizures as an infant, was told to institutionalize the child. Said the child would never walk or function well enough to be productive. The child is now 27yrs old, has been walking since the age of 4 and lives a very functional happy life. :)
ReplyDeleteNever pursued child support with the father of my oldest child. I chose to bring him into the world and raise him, thus my responsibility. It was not my job to force him to be an involved father.
ReplyDeleteSo Linda you want to answer my question or not lol!
ReplyDeleteNo I would not abort.
ReplyDeleteMy thing with child support is the court system seems now put the good fathers down just because of the bad ones. I have my 3 kids equal time as their mother does and I still was told to pay child support. The judge just said look at it as if you are helping her out, so I asked who is helping me out? No Answer of course.
ReplyDeleteOk ok Fair enough, I just had to hear it from you lol!
ReplyDeleteThrough all the converstions that I have witnessed here, I have noticed talk of abuse and abortion. Both are a form of abuse, but the major one I was noticing was the talk of abuse. Choking someone in a rage is not necessary whether you are mad or unstable. No one deserves the fact of being touched whether because they push your buttons or what. I used to believe that if a woman hits a man that the woman should be hit back, but in reality it shouldn't be done. As an adult you are taught about responsibility as well as not putting your hands on anyone. You can talk about rage, if you can't control yourself that is more than rage that is anger management that can lead to an even more disaster than what you might think. You can either hurt someone or maybe have that person end up dead. Its your decision the same way you came into that situation is not the same way that your going to get out.Think about the situation before you do something you will regret, if you get mad at someone walk away, take a breather there are other forms of stressful situations than grabbing someone by the throat, or even more grabbing a weapon. Think before you act...Are you willing to deal with guilt and with the fact of spending your life in jail? Or would you rather do something with your life its up to you...
ReplyDeleteSo Linda what if your little demonseed grow up and burnt down a hospital full of sick children? Knowing that you were warned of this evil within would you feel that you were the one to blame?
ReplyDeleteI think so many men look at child support as a lynching and not a financial split for the children you helped create. The custodial parent is not getting away with paying nothing. They are providing a roof over their heads, clothes, food, misc needs, etc... The only difference is that there is not a breakdown on paper attached to a court order to show it.
ReplyDeleteThose are very true words Voiceavoice but in the heat of the moment all Hell could break loose and you could be sitting on the side line thinking why?
ReplyDeleteI think that even *good* children can turn bad just as easily as a *bad* child can be turned disciplined. I hold responsibility to a degree with all my kids and what they have or have not done. But there is a point where a person knows the difference between right and wrong, and makes their choices by way of free will. Science, technology or whatnot cannot guarantee anything through a test and suppositions. I've seen too many contradictions/miracles if you will with the pre-determined.
ReplyDeletethanks Ant!
ReplyDelete@Voice .... if you are new to this blog stick with it, the conversation/topics change daily.
ReplyDeleteWhether custodial or not 50/50 is 50/50. So everything is even. At that point the parent that request child support is showing that after the separation they simple are not able tosupport their children alone.
ReplyDelete@Linda - But in Anthony's case, he has the kids every other week. Not weekend...Week. And it has to travel a distance to pick them up and drop them off and pay child support. He will be the first person to tell you he is not making mucho dinero.
ReplyDeleteDoesn't sound right to me.
Voice dips in and out Linda but I would like to hear more from the voice! Check out Voiceavoice blog. There is some really good words to read on there.
ReplyDeleteAngel that was the BEST thing that I have EVER read that you wrote ;) but it is all so true!
ReplyDeleteWait...what just happened??? Is Angel defending Ant???? Is there an earthquake? Is the world coming to an end?
ReplyDeleteIf I feel someone is right, I'll say it. In this situation, I feel he is right for feeling that the child support is unfair.
ReplyDeleteAngel!!!! IT WAS A JOKE!!!!
ReplyDeleteOh yeah....I knew that! ummm...yeah....lol!!!
ReplyDeleteHow is the custody order stated?
ReplyDeleteOf course jerzee is way different on some things then PA is ... and not to the fair side regarding family court issues.
ReplyDeleteWOW, you guys cover a lot in one day. As for abuse nobody should ever hit another human being, but unfortunately thats not the way things work anymore. As for if a man hits a woman and the police are involved she does not have to file a complaint for the man to be charged. I know from experience this past summer, and not an enjoyable experience. The cops press the charges whether the woman wants them or not. Believe it or not... look it up.
ReplyDeleteAs for abortion, I've had one before and while its not a fun experience I know it was for the best. I wouldn't be able to handle the emotional strain of having a baby or giving the baby up for adoption. I think it is harder to give a baby up for adoption and thumbs up to the ones that can handle it...
As for head fuck yeah she should still be giving it, but it shouldn't feel like a chore. So shave your hairy balls and take a shower so you don't reek and your more likely to get it back even better...
And for custody sorry Ant, the state of NJ is a peach when it comes to custody, and child support. Not a soul in those damn offices actually does their jobs, so suck it up and keep paying till the day those kids turn 18 and be prepared to pay for a few more years after that if they decide to go to college... or just tell them to go emancipate themselves.
good luck.
Most states it's 18 period, college or not. In OK if the child is still in HS, they pay until they graduate or drop from school. If NJ enforces child support through college, its the first I've heard of.
ReplyDeleteIV always hourd of the till college thing but I never known if it was a fact or not.
ReplyDeleteI just came from taking my kids to this blow up air place. Then we came home and my wife made dinner. AS we ate my oldest daughter was on the phone with her boyfriend. Then I went to my Weight Room for a light work out and Now my wife and I plus my 3 kids are playing the board game Life. Damn I feel Old!
ReplyDeleteAs far as I knew it was only if it was stipulated in the divorce agreement or agreed upon by parties.
ReplyDeleteOriginally in our divorce decree we stated that as long as we have join custody their would be no child support from either party. My kids mom waited seven years to take me to court to try and get full custody and child support. Of course they didn't give her full custody but in the end she did get the child support.
ReplyDeleteIn NJ you still have to pay child support while your kid is in college. My dad is still paying for me. HAHA. But he deserves to be cause he is an asshole. My mom loves it. I think that there is an age limit or something though, and I think Obama actually just increased it because it used to be like 22 or 23, but I think now its 26 or 27. Im not exactly sure though, so don't quote me on it.
ReplyDeleteAnt unless you had a court agreement that you wouldnt be paying child support or some sort of legal documentation it doesnt mean anything. That is pretty jacked up though. They dont only look at who has custody. The look at each parents income so even though you might not make a lot she might make a lot less. And I believe they also look at how many other people are in your household, like if you have more kids but with another partner or if you are married how much your spouse makes... shit blows.