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Monday, January 31, 2011
Book Of Question Love&Sex Number 91:
In selecting a life partner, do you think it is more important to follow your heart or your head? Would you ever let yourself fall in love with someone who wasn't at all like the image of the person you would hope to find?
GM Tony! Head love is the best love! Lol following that heart is like jogging naked in Camp Crystal Lake 12am and u kno Jason's ass is out there.......DANGEROUS!! Especially 4 the ones who haven't been in love or who fall easily.....now could speed thru like running that yellow light and when it turn RED on u PUMP UR MF BRAKES!! Ya kno? Lmao
I would have to agree with Tayana on this one. I know your heart means well but it fails to inform you of those signs alone the way to heartbreak. Your head catches these signals and if you are thinking clear with your head and not your heart then you can avoid that very thing. The only problem is it is easier said than done. And Now Your Momma Knows!
Yeah I really do. From my experience the heart means well but it does not look out for all of the danger signs. And usually you think about those signs but then your heart says "but I am in love! I like to hear you repeat that after that very bad break up.
Sorry Karyn I just notice that you wrote me But I still have to disagree and I think in time you will to. At times a person May seem to stick with their heart but it is a motion granted on by the head.
Oh please Anthony...your head can tell your heart one thing, but unless there it aconnection with the heart you are in my opinion in the long run setting yourself up for life of discontentment...just seems like you are settling for a safer option for fear of being hurt..
Karyn it is So Very Easy to follow the heart. How many stories are there of people following their heart and being hurt? Many Right? See that is the easy part but for one to fight their heart with their mind and do the right thing, well that is a move made only by a person with great determination and knowledge of hurt,, pain and down fall. But I guess in life nothing makes you feel more real or a live than the heart. So we as humans tend to chase it away! So My question to you is, do you take the easy route or are you the strong one that knows when to fight your feelings?
hey...what a clever way of putting this idea across...a simple glance at the content may have someone thinking the story is about rationalising matters of the heart based on experiences of hurt which should forearm you in the future...As yo...u would know, you have highlighted the theory of operant conditioning (i think or is it classical conditioning.. i cant remember) which explains that human behaviour is reinforced via our interpretation (whether positive or negative) of the situation. what i hear in your words are 'it is easy to become bitter, dirty on love and lose faith with what is truly in your heart once you have experienced hurt...it is easy to shut down and deny your heart when your mind is reinforcing through experience that this behaviour brings pain. i interpret your words to mean that it is so much harder to have experienced the perils of heartbreak yet still have trust in the knowledge that the heart wants what the heart wants and again have the courage to listen and act on this, despite the risk of being hurt....this is what living is all about..... my answer to your question (sorry about it being so verbose) is that i am taking the easy route and am following my heart (not to do so, is so much harder for me)...I dont need to fight my feelings because they are what they are and even if experienced in a way that is percieved by me as being painful, at least i can know within myself that i have' lived and embraced what life dished out to me' ...
I agree with you to a point Karyn. I feel that if a persons heart is unsettled with some one then you should go after that love as long as that is what you both want. Follow and chase that love until you both KNOW for sure it is time to give up. BUT in my experience chasing that love only ends up in expired time. I can't really say its wasted time because if that is what a person really wants then that time is not wasted. So agree with you but in the end I think a person could save their self some time and move on.
now we are shifting the conversation slightly which is good..iif a person's heart is unsettled then they should do themselves and their partner a huge favour and part ways...I have said heaps of times and strongly believe that the heart wan...ts what the heart wants, which also means it has some idea of what it doesn't want..the unsettled feeling as you describe it is manifested from the head and heart being at war with each other.... i am curious about your idea about saving time and moving on...does or should saving time be more important than experience (good or bad) which as we know shapes who we are??? what type of person do you believe you would be if you cut short many of those experiences that now looking back on,you can appreciate were actually life changing for you?
I believe that today I stand as a good man followed my many faults of the past but yet still these faults are what make me the man I am of today. If I were to go back and change what took place in my past that I often felt a moment of regre...t towards maybe just maybe I would not be who I am today. I guess when it comes down to it people should be more concerned with who they are and not what they have. Many times when one thinks of changing the past it is only to change what is in the present but not to change one's self. But to go back and do so wouldn't the present version of our selves not be who we are today? Good question I believe. So I guess I appreciate all that my past had to offer in order to make me the man I am today.
H to tha E to tha A to tha R to tha T...thats where i wanna be....dont be scared of heartbreak....be more afraid of the regrets that eat away at you in the middle of the night when it finally catches up with you that you are unsatisfied..
GM Tony! Head love is the best love! Lol following that heart is like jogging naked in Camp Crystal Lake 12am and u kno Jason's ass is out there.......DANGEROUS!! Especially 4 the ones who haven't been in love or who fall easily.....now could speed thru like running that yellow light and when it turn RED on u PUMP UR MF BRAKES!! Ya kno? Lmao
ReplyDeleteExperience has taught me to follow both.
ReplyDeletei agree with kiki
ReplyDeleteUse your heart to find a partner, use your head to make them a lifetime partner!
ReplyDeleteI would have to agree with Tayana on this one. I know your heart means well but it fails to inform you of those signs alone the way to heartbreak. Your head catches these signals and if you are thinking clear with your head and not your heart then you can avoid that very thing. The only problem is it is easier said than done. And Now Your Momma Knows!
ReplyDeleteOh shoot Tony! U agree with me? Cooooool lol
ReplyDeleteYeah I really do. From my experience the heart means well but it does not look out for all of the danger signs. And usually you think about those signs but then your heart says "but I am in love! I like to hear you repeat that after that very bad break up.
ReplyDeleteAnd here is a conversation I had with my good friend Karyn on Saturday pretty much regarding the same question:
ReplyDeleteHey Anthony just wanted to let you know that heart trumps head! But I always knew it would be a non contest!!!
ReplyDeleteSorry Karyn I just notice that you wrote me But I still have to disagree and I think in time you will to. At times a person May seem to stick with their heart but it is a motion granted on by the head.
ReplyDeleteOh please Anthony...your head can tell your heart one thing, but unless there it aconnection with the heart you are in my opinion in the long run setting yourself up for life of discontentment...just seems like you are settling for a safer option for fear of being hurt..
ReplyDeleteKaryn it is So Very Easy to follow the heart. How many stories are there of people following their heart and being hurt? Many Right? See that is the easy part but for one to fight their heart with their mind and do the right thing, well that is a move made only by a person with great determination and knowledge of hurt,, pain and down fall. But I guess in life nothing makes you feel more real or a live than the heart. So we as humans tend to chase it away! So My question to you is, do you take the easy route or are you the strong one that knows when to fight your feelings?
ReplyDeletehey...what a clever way of putting this idea across...a simple glance at the content may have someone thinking the story is about rationalising matters of the heart based on experiences of hurt which should forearm you in the future...As yo...u would know, you have highlighted the theory of operant conditioning (i think or is it classical conditioning.. i cant remember) which explains that human behaviour is reinforced via our interpretation (whether positive or negative) of the situation.
ReplyDeletewhat i hear in your words are 'it is easy to become bitter, dirty on love and lose faith with what is truly in your heart once you have experienced hurt...it is easy to shut down and deny your heart when your mind is reinforcing through experience that this behaviour brings pain.
i interpret your words to mean that it is so much harder to have experienced the perils of heartbreak yet still have trust in the knowledge that the heart wants what the heart wants and again have the courage to listen and act on this, despite the risk of being hurt....this is what living is all about.....
my answer to your question (sorry about it being so verbose) is that i am taking the easy route and am following my heart (not to do so, is so much harder for me)...I dont need to fight my feelings because they are what they are and even if experienced in a way that is percieved by me as being painful, at least i can know within myself that i have' lived and embraced what life dished out to me' ...
I agree with you to a point Karyn. I feel that if a persons heart is unsettled with some one then you should go after that love as long as that is what you both want. Follow and chase that love until you both KNOW for sure it is time to give up. BUT in my experience chasing that love only ends up in expired time. I can't really say its wasted time because if that is what a person really wants then that time is not wasted. So agree with you but in the end I think a person could save their self some time and move on.
ReplyDeletenow we are shifting the conversation slightly which is good..iif a person's heart is unsettled then they should do themselves and their partner a huge favour and part ways...I have said heaps of times and strongly believe that the heart wan...ts what the heart wants, which also means it has some idea of what it doesn't want..the unsettled feeling as you describe it is manifested from the head and heart being at war with each other....
ReplyDeletei am curious about your idea about saving time and moving on...does or should saving time be more important than experience (good or bad) which as we know shapes who we are??? what type of person do you believe you would be if you cut short many of those experiences that now looking back on,you can appreciate were actually life changing for you?
I believe that today I stand as a good man followed my many faults of the past but yet still these faults are what make me the man I am of today. If I were to go back and change what took place in my past that I often felt a moment of regre...t towards maybe just maybe I would not be who I am today. I guess when it comes down to it people should be more concerned with who they are and not what they have. Many times when one thinks of changing the past it is only to change what is in the present but not to change one's self. But to go back and do so wouldn't the present version of our selves not be who we are today? Good question I believe. So I guess I appreciate all that my past had to offer in order to make me the man I am today.
ReplyDeletewell done!!! well said my man
ReplyDeleteWell thank you me lady!
ReplyDeleteIst question I would follow my heart 2nd question : No why waste each other time
ReplyDeleteH to tha E to tha A to tha R to tha T...thats where i wanna be....dont be scared of heartbreak....be more afraid of the regrets that eat away at you in the middle of the night when it finally catches up with you that you are unsatisfied..
ReplyDeleteactually i had the most painful breakup of my life....and i still love him
ReplyDeleteYou probably still love him because the breakup was your fault.
ReplyDeletehhaha......why would you say that...
ReplyDeleteBecause it would make sense for you to take up that position.
ReplyDeleteoh well thats your take on it...
ReplyDeletesmart ass...im saving my fights for the looming war.....stop taking my energy lol..........
ReplyDeleteOOh yeah? Well keep saving ;)
ReplyDeletenah im not gonna fight...ill just send you in to battle...so you in or out A.L.L
ReplyDeleteI am a warrior so I was made to fight But I do chose my battles carefully.
ReplyDeletesmart man!!! i wouldnt want anyone who was not strategic in their thinking...
ReplyDelete