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Monday, December 20, 2010
The Last Monday Before Christmas!
So what can we expect today? Is anyone in the holiday spirit? Or who all is not? Talk To Me!
So far every year that goes by I have been going further and further away from the spirit. And now that my kids are a bit older they don't ask for as much {which is great} and that helps my spirit to go down as well.
To be honest almost EVERYONE of my friends are guilty of this! I was once a long time ago but I grew out of that. I think a lot has to do with my friends choosing those very needy people and in the beginning they spend all their time with them so a month later that person can't bare to be without them. Or it could be some crazy chick that was cheated in many times in the past so they don't want their guy to be out of their sight. Does it up set me, sure it does. Especially when we are all grown up now. You would think a man could put his foot down and tell his woman that his friends are important to him. But hey I guess everyone is not me. And Now Your Momma Knows!
I really should and one day I think I will. Of course once I set out to become famous that's when all my real problems will start and everyone who ever had beef with me will come out of no where with all types of none sense. But it still might be worth it.
No I never got caught up to the point that I forgot about my friends and no they were not upset... Lol I know how 2 balance and thats wats life is all about, balancing things and knowing the where when what how and why...... I learned how 2 be a woman 2 my man and then have a lil spare time for my friends bcuz thats important to me :-)
What's up DK? And I wish I could say the same for my friends but I can't. It's crazy because I would think woman would act more like this than man but then again a lot of woman I dated have done this to their friends so yeah I guess both sex are guilty of it. But then again it's me we are talking about here! What woman wouldn't want to spend every wakening minute with me? Oh wait... my wife. Ok forget that I said that lol!
Yes it happens when you go thru that honeymoon stage or a chick get d*ckmatized. even duded get that way. Thats how u know the chemistry is there & its all go ing to work out
I do hear you Miriam but it often doesn't work out after that great feeling is over and then it is over and your friends are left standing there like What The Hell! lol!
And thats why they are there to pick up those pieces a true friend will always be there and be happy when your happy. But heres a twist. What do you do when your significant other won't sleep with you? If you have tried and they won't give you any what do you do?
Hey I can make that my next question if you like ;} But I guess if I was with a woman and we were dating and she did not want to put out it wouldn't bother me that much. I would want her to feel like she was respecting her self and not give it up until she was ready BUT after a month then if she was still not ready then maybe "I would start to have a problem. But I do think that maybe people start having sex way too early into their relationships and a lot of guys get the chance to just bounce after they got what they wanted from the moment they met a woman. Yes I know it's fucked up!
Well I only been in love once, I still kept my friends, but I didn't run with them as much as being single but I needed them when the asshole freakin bailed out!! As far as the other BF's, yea I loved them but I still dipped out hahaha!
A Anthony but if your in a relationship n been in 1 then wat? I think that would be a great topic. I need an answer i think that happens to all of us possibly?
True indeed Tony! I still have respect 4 the cat i'm with, but I am a people person, so we're grown and have friendships b4 we met, let's keep it respectful and leave the insecurity in the dumpster lol
It's crazy Miriam I would like some one that looks like you and someone that looks like me would be getting it in all the time lol! But I guess no matter how you look once you meet someone if the sexual chemistry isn't there after you been together for a certain amount of time the sex will just die.
OK sounds good but just so my wife doesn't think I'm planning on cheating I am going to say here is my next question and delivered from my good friend and I can say your name or I can just say from one of my friends. What do you think?
hahaha I don't want to die cuz u posting it lol. just friend i don't want nobody inboxing me thinking they can help solve a problem lol cuz its 4 one of my friends
So today I'm going to add a question from Kiki's book "Men Are Just F#ckin Strange". I will choose number 69 (wanna spice it up a bit): You come home early and find your man or woman in bed with another couple. Do you... A) grab the closest object and try to end a life, B) leave the room, hoping the ...image will disappear or C) join in? Be honest :-)
LOL well it depends on a lot but if it was a girl and guy couple I would probably B. But if this was something that we discussed before and were already thinking of it but she decided to do it with out me and I caught her in the act I would be pissed but at the end of the day I just like my relationship to be even so I would join in and go right for the other girl. And Now Your Momma Knows!
I have another question brought to you by a good friend of mine.
Why do people no longer have sex in relationships after being together after some time? And what do you do if your partner stops sleeping with you? Do you cheat? Talk To Me!
I think people just lose focus and place less importance on it after awhile. And they need a wake up call, but hopefullly it doesn't have to go so far as to cheating.
I always thought I looked so good and my sexual appetite was so high that I am a freak that any woman I date would want to bang my brains out every night but I can soOoOo relate as well! But to be honest no matter how you look once you meet someone if the sexual chemistry isn't there after you been together for a certain amount of time the sex will just die.
Part of the problem is we start to look at the sex in the relationship as an obligation after awhile. It becomes an object to be used as punishment (women) and control. On the other hand it becomes like a past time (men) when the mood hits us. I think couples forget that they are supposed to pleasing each other. It's not about self gratification. Sexual chemisrty is important but even that can fade over time if we neglect our partners needs in order to satisfy our own.
HEY!!!! FRANCO taike that back....i have never ever punished myself and took sex away!!!! Who have you been messing with? Wow...i feel if i am in relations with you...if i want it 6 times a week...you should keep up
Wow Franco that was the most deep thing that came from you in all of the 30 years I have known you!!!! Ok maybe it's been like 25 years that I have known you :}
@Anthony... I met you when we was like 7 or 8 so yeah... Like 20 plus years and you knw what it's like man. Relationships of intricate. Each facet of it is delicate and you gotta find the balance in each part.
That is so true but I think two people that share the same intense sexual chemistry WILL have A LOT of sex no matter how their relationship is going or how long they have been together. Many people will probably not want to hear that because they are in love with someone and think that loves makes all the difference but it doe not. Sexual chemistry and being in love with someone is two different things. When your sexual chemistry is high almost any night of laying in bed next to each other you are just going to want to do it. And I'm not talking about when you just meet someone in the beginning and just want to get it in just case you are new to each other.
this is deep. if the checmistry is geat n so is the sex n things are kept great between the both of you then why does it stop? i see myself like anthony as far as being a sexual person and expecting to always satisfy my partner so when they don't want to its like huh are u serious? Its time to go buy me a toy lol
I agree Franco, satisfying our partners should be just as much a turn on and focus as fulfilling our own needs. We need to keep it sexy, fresh and fun and not let it become a boring obligation just like we shouldn't look at loving, relating, respecting & communicating with one another as an obligation. If that's gone than so will the sex be eventually. If both partners stop doing this then they're taking each other for granted and that doesn't start in the bed, it starts in how they treat each other on an everyday basis. And sex should never be used as a form of manipulation that is just straight up Fucked up! Manipulation in any form shoud not even be in the relationship. No, I wouldn't cheat. I would end it if they didn't wake their ass up and act like they first did when we fell in love.
I agree with Franco also. In the beginning of a relationship sexual chemistry is mostly based on physical attraction. And in a relationship that has grown when you lack in other areas, respect, trust, security, it can very much affect your relationship sexually.
I agree with EVERYONE but my point to make here is NOT over all chemistry but simply Sexual Chemistry between two people. Just that chemitry where twp people are 100% on the Same Sexual page. The type of chemistry or thought process if you will that even if you are made you are that much sexually compatible that you can't help but to sleep with each other. The type of sexual connection that pulls you to that person after you have broken up just because You Both {again on the same page} just want to lay next to each other naked. That is what I am talking about. It is different than just being in love. You can share this with a person and not be in love with them. Now maybe not everyone have experience this but this is simple my point, if people met that certain someone that they bond with on that level their sexual life would almost be lived separately from every other part of their relationship. And Now Your Momma Knows!
Its crazy i know people who have been together for years and they have an open communication r still attracted to each other and they have stopped where 1 person thought it was them? If that stops should you become suspect of cheating or feeling like your not good enuf to satisfy that person sexually?
Yeah but that alone doesn't make for a good healthy relationship. You can have great sex and still be unhappy with your relationship as a whole. If you're just talking about sex then you don't need to put relationship in the question at all!
Like I said I agree with everyone I just wanted to point my feelings toward sexual chemistry. And I just wanted to add to it to make myself clear. That's all.
I think dat dats a lack of communication problem really... If u think this is a prob say sumthing cheating jus makes u da bad guy truely 4 not evn tryin 2 make shit more... or mayb da person jus aint feelin the sex one is giving nmore lol
Alot lmao... I mean i look 16 put im 21 n ben thru more then da average 21 yr old honestly.. lol... Plus i've ben n the situation b4 and have experienced it b4
Lmao I wish I had a sexual chemistry after reading it! Sum ppl jus get boring after awhile... Me personally im not a bed person dats super boring after awhile.. But i like the way u describe it tho and it is tru dat if ur compatiable wit sum1 then there's really no worries n dat department, but once again there has 2 b communication 2 make sure their really both n2 wat eva...
Yeah I agree with that. I'm just saying that it is a great thing if two people find each other that are on that sexual level where they complete each other. Like a woman once told me that she had sex with her ex EVERYDAY for six months! EVERYDAY!!! That's Sexual Chemistry to the fullest! How could her new person even compete? That means they had sex everyday through six of her periods! That's pretty deep! They had to be on the highest level of Sexual Chemistry as it can go!!! That's what I am talking about!
I Never had that problem.I was in a relationship for over nine years and we had sex almost everyday and sometimes more then once a day so i never cheated i think people put to much effensince on Sexual Chemistry its Chemistry people need to work on people stop liking each other and the love making turns into sex and sex with the same person gets old after awhile. ; <>
Sometimes it has absolutely nothing with sexual chemistry or if the sex is actually good it's the other person isn't putting in the work in other areas making the other person to frustrated to want to be intimate. I've seen that a million t...imes the wife stops having sex cause she is so frustrated with cleaning and the kids and all the husband would have to do is help out some more but then he's frustrated cause he's not getting any. It's really sad how that happens. But sex is also a stress reliever and the longer you go with out it the more frustrated you get so it's a lose/lose situation. But I would never recommend cheating it's always better to talk or therapy before you throw in the towel.
So far every year that goes by I have been going further and further away from the spirit. And now that my kids are a bit older they don't ask for as much {which is great} and that helps my spirit to go down as well.
ReplyDeleteSo today I am going to add another question from The Book Of Questions Love&Sex. I will choose number 39:
ReplyDeleteWhen you fall in love, do you get so caught up that you almost lose contact with your friends? If so, do you think this upsets them?
yess nd yess !! :(
ReplyDeleteTo be honest almost EVERYONE of my friends are guilty of this! I was once a long time ago but I grew out of that. I think a lot has to do with my friends choosing those very needy people and in the beginning they spend all their time with them so a month later that person can't bare to be without them. Or it could be some crazy chick that was cheated in many times in the past so they don't want their guy to be out of their sight. Does it up set me, sure it does. Especially when we are all grown up now. You would think a man could put his foot down and tell his woman that his friends are important to him. But hey I guess everyone is not me. And Now Your Momma Knows!
ReplyDeleteU should just write a book ant.
ReplyDeleteI really should and one day I think I will. Of course once I set out to become famous that's when all my real problems will start and everyone who ever had beef with me will come out of no where with all types of none sense. But it still might be worth it.
ReplyDeleteNo I never got caught up to the point that I forgot about my friends and no they were not upset... Lol I know how 2 balance and thats wats life is all about, balancing things and knowing the where when what how and why...... I learned how 2 be a woman 2 my man and then have a lil spare time for my friends bcuz thats important to me :-)
ReplyDeleteWhat's up DK? And I wish I could say the same for my friends but I can't. It's crazy because I would think woman would act more like this than man but then again a lot of woman I dated have done this to their friends so yeah I guess both sex are guilty of it. But then again it's me we are talking about here! What woman wouldn't want to spend every wakening minute with me? Oh wait... my wife. Ok forget that I said that lol!
ReplyDeleteLmao!!!! Hey Anthony ur nuts okay smdh.... Lol
ReplyDeletesometimes, and probably
ReplyDeleteYes it happens when you go thru that honeymoon stage or a chick get d*ckmatized. even duded get that way. Thats how u know the chemistry is there & its all go
ReplyDeleteing to work out
Yea and a little
ReplyDeleteI do hear you Miriam but it often doesn't work out after that great feeling is over and then it is over and your friends are left standing there like What The Hell! lol!
ReplyDeleteAnd thats why they are there to pick up those pieces a true friend will always be there and be happy when your happy. But heres a twist. What do you do when your significant other won't sleep with you? If you have tried and they won't give you any what do you do?
ReplyDeleteAHHHHHHHHHHHH Wow you threw me for a loop with that one!!!!
ReplyDeleteHey I can make that my next question if you like ;} But I guess if I was with a woman and we were dating and she did not want to put out it wouldn't bother me that much. I would want her to feel like she was respecting her self and not give it up until she was ready BUT after a month then if she was still not ready then maybe "I would start to have a problem. But I do think that maybe people start having sex way too early into their relationships and a lot of guys get the chance to just bounce after they got what they wanted from the moment they met a woman. Yes I know it's fucked up!
ReplyDeleteWell I only been in love once, I still kept my friends, but I didn't run with them as much as being single but I needed them when the asshole freakin bailed out!! As far as the other BF's, yea I loved them but I still dipped out hahaha!
ReplyDeleteTayana you seem like the type of girl that would still be chilling with the homies even after a relationship. .
ReplyDeleteA Anthony but if your in a relationship n been in 1 then wat? I think that would be a great topic. I need an answer i think that happens to all of us possibly?
ReplyDeleteWell it actually does happen to us, hell it happens to me now! WTF????
ReplyDeletehahaha we on the same boat let me find out dudes get their periods lmao
ReplyDeleteHey it's not me! If it was up to me it would be on at least four days a week!
ReplyDeleteTrue indeed Tony! I still have respect 4 the cat i'm with, but I am a people person, so we're grown and have friendships b4 we met, let's keep it respectful and leave the insecurity in the dumpster lol
ReplyDeletehahaha me 2
ReplyDeleteIt's crazy Miriam I would like some one that looks like you and someone that looks like me would be getting it in all the time lol! But I guess no matter how you look once you meet someone if the sexual chemistry isn't there after you been together for a certain amount of time the sex will just die.
ReplyDeletethats thing is it checmistry or is it cheating or could it be its just not there anymore? Great topic post it I want to hear the answers.
ReplyDeleteSo the question should be, Why do people no longer have sex in relationships? Is that it? Is that the way you want it worded?
ReplyDeleteYup and what do you do if your partner stops sleeping with you? Do you cheat?
ReplyDeleteOK sounds good but just so my wife doesn't think I'm planning on cheating I am going to say here is my next question and delivered from my good friend and I can say your name or I can just say from one of my friends. What do you think?
ReplyDeletehahaha I don't want to die cuz u posting it lol. just friend i don't want nobody inboxing me thinking they can help solve a problem lol cuz its 4 one of my friends
ReplyDeleteLOL OK OK I hear you. Hey we can probably come up with a good question of our own every day lol! OK I am posting it up now.
ReplyDeleteSo today I'm going to add a question from Kiki's book "Men Are Just F#ckin Strange". I will choose number 69 (wanna spice it up a bit): You come home early and find your man or woman in bed with another couple. Do you... A) grab the closest object and try to end a life, B) leave the room, hoping the ...image will disappear or C) join in? Be honest :-)
ReplyDeleteHmmm well if that was me and the couple was two females then yeah I would c. join in.
ReplyDeleteThink I would (b) before I (a)...then have 2nd thoughts and (c) lmao
ReplyDeleteLOL well it depends on a lot but if it was a girl and guy couple I would probably B. But if this was something that we discussed before and were already thinking of it but she decided to do it with out me and I caught her in the act I would be pissed but at the end of the day I just like my relationship to be even so I would join in and go right for the other girl. And Now Your Momma Knows!
ReplyDeleteI have another question brought to you by a good friend of mine.
ReplyDeleteWhy do people no longer have sex in relationships after being together after some time? And what do you do if your partner stops sleeping with you? Do you cheat? Talk To Me!
i can so0o0o relate to this crap
ReplyDeleteI think people just lose focus and place less importance on it after awhile. And they need a wake up call, but hopefullly it doesn't have to go so far as to cheating.
ReplyDeleteI always thought I looked so good and my sexual appetite was so high that I am a freak that any woman I date would want to bang my brains out every night but I can soOoOo relate as well! But to be honest no matter how you look once you meet someone if the sexual chemistry isn't there after you been together for a certain amount of time the sex will just die.
ReplyDeleteexacly!!! thats the reason y i no longer have a relationship n bcuz we live too far away it kills me cuz so much time spent for nothin :(
ReplyDeleteDONT WANNA ANSWER CAUSE HE THINK I AM CHEATING AND I AM NOT !!!!
ReplyDeleteIf the sex is that bad why waste time until you decide to cheat? I say move on or agree to an open relationship.
ReplyDeleteI've never had that happen in a relationship...but I don't cheat
ReplyDeletePart of the problem is we start to look at the sex in the relationship as an obligation after awhile. It becomes an object to be used as punishment (women) and control. On the other hand it becomes like a past time (men) when the mood hits us. I think couples forget that they are supposed to pleasing each other. It's not about self gratification. Sexual chemisrty is important but even that can fade over time if we neglect our partners needs in order to satisfy our own.
ReplyDeleteHEY!!!! FRANCO taike that back....i have never ever punished myself and took sex away!!!! Who have you been messing with? Wow...i feel if i am in relations with you...if i want it 6 times a week...you should keep up
ReplyDeleteWow Franco that was the most deep thing that came from you in all of the 30 years I have known you!!!! Ok maybe it's been like 25 years that I have known you :}
ReplyDelete@Anthony... I met you when we was like 7 or 8 so yeah... Like 20 plus years and you knw what it's like man. Relationships of intricate. Each facet of it is delicate and you gotta find the balance in each part.
ReplyDeleteyeah he met you when you weere like 7 or 8, but yet no growth(maybe you grew in other spots)
ReplyDelete@ Kerrie... 6 times a week... I'm trying to get it atleast twice a day... LOL!
ReplyDeleteThat is so true but I think two people that share the same intense sexual chemistry WILL have A LOT of sex no matter how their relationship is going or how long they have been together. Many people will probably not want to hear that because they are in love with someone and think that loves makes all the difference but it doe not. Sexual chemistry and being in love with someone is two different things. When your sexual chemistry is high almost any night of laying in bed next to each other you are just going to want to do it. And I'm not talking about when you just meet someone in the beginning and just want to get it in just case you are new to each other.
ReplyDeleteLook....i'm not even getting any!!!! not even once every 6 months..... so 6 times a week, at least!!!
ReplyDeletetwice a day would be great!!! but honestly most men can't keep up with that!
ReplyDeleteit is importnant to feel attractive, especially sexually, cause when you don't you get depressed:(..................
ReplyDeletethis is deep. if the checmistry is geat n so is the sex n things are kept great between the both of you then why does it stop? i see myself like anthony as far as being a sexual person and expecting to always satisfy my partner so when they don't want to its like huh are u serious? Its time to go buy me a toy lol
ReplyDeleteI agree Franco, satisfying our partners should be just as much a turn on and focus as fulfilling our own needs. We need to keep it sexy, fresh and fun and not let it become a boring obligation just like we shouldn't look at loving, relating, respecting & communicating with one another as an obligation. If that's gone than so will the sex be eventually. If both partners stop doing this then they're taking each other for granted and that doesn't start in the bed, it starts in how they treat each other on an everyday basis. And sex should never be used as a form of manipulation that is just straight up Fucked up! Manipulation in any form shoud not even be in the relationship. No, I wouldn't cheat. I would end it if they didn't wake their ass up and act like they first did when we fell in love.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Franco also. In the beginning of a relationship sexual chemistry is mostly based on physical attraction. And in a relationship that has grown when you lack in other areas, respect, trust, security, it can very much affect your relationship sexually.
ReplyDeleteI agree with EVERYONE but my point to make here is NOT over all chemistry but simply Sexual Chemistry between two people. Just that chemitry where twp people are 100% on the Same Sexual page. The type of chemistry or thought process if you will that even if you are made you are that much sexually compatible that you can't help but to sleep with each other. The type of sexual connection that pulls you to that person after you have broken up just because You Both {again on the same page} just want to lay next to each other naked. That is what I am talking about. It is different than just being in love. You can share this with a person and not be in love with them. Now maybe not everyone have experience this but this is simple my point, if people met that certain someone that they bond with on that level their sexual life would almost be lived separately from every other part of their relationship. And Now Your Momma Knows!
ReplyDeleteIts crazy i know people who have been together for years and they have an open communication r still attracted to each other and they have stopped where 1 person thought it was them? If that stops should you become suspect of cheating or feeling like your not good enuf to satisfy that person sexually?
ReplyDeleteYeah but that alone doesn't make for a good healthy relationship. You can have great sex and still be unhappy with your relationship as a whole. If you're just talking about sex then you don't need to put relationship in the question at all!
ReplyDeleteLike I said I agree with everyone I just wanted to point my feelings toward sexual chemistry. And I just wanted to add to it to make myself clear. That's all.
ReplyDeleteI think dat dats a lack of communication problem really... If u think this is a prob say sumthing cheating jus makes u da bad guy truely 4 not evn tryin 2 make shit more... or mayb da person jus aint feelin the sex one is giving nmore lol
ReplyDeleteHey Jas WHERE the HELL you been at ALL day?
ReplyDeletePackin lmao.. I move out 2day hubby!
ReplyDeleteGREAT Jas!!! And what do You Know about this conversation little one?
ReplyDeleteAlot lmao... I mean i look 16 put im 21 n ben thru more then da average 21 yr old honestly.. lol... Plus i've ben n the situation b4 and have experienced it b4
ReplyDeleteI hear you. So what do you think about my explanation of Sexual Chemistry?
ReplyDeleteLmao I wish I had a sexual chemistry after reading it! Sum ppl jus get boring after awhile... Me personally im not a bed person dats super boring after awhile.. But i like the way u describe it tho and it is tru dat if ur compatiable wit sum1 then there's really no worries n dat department, but once again there has 2 b communication 2 make sure their really both n2 wat eva...
ReplyDeleteYeah I agree with that. I'm just saying that it is a great thing if two people find each other that are on that sexual level where they complete each other. Like a woman once told me that she had sex with her ex EVERYDAY for six months! EVERYDAY!!! That's Sexual Chemistry to the fullest! How could her new person even compete? That means they had sex everyday through six of her periods! That's pretty deep! They had to be on the highest level of Sexual Chemistry as it can go!!! That's what I am talking about!
ReplyDeleteDamn lmao... Well we all get lucky one day... Dat was me b4 lol.. Matter fact I think ev women has ben there b4!
ReplyDeleteI Never had that problem.I was in a relationship for over nine years and we had sex almost everyday and sometimes more then once a day so i never cheated i think people put to much effensince on Sexual Chemistry its Chemistry people need to work on people stop liking each other and the love making turns into sex and sex with the same person gets old after awhile. ; <>
ReplyDeleteCouldn't have said it better myself LOL
ReplyDeleteSometimes it has absolutely nothing with sexual chemistry or if the sex is actually good it's the other person isn't putting in the work in other areas making the other person to frustrated to want to be intimate. I've seen that a million t...imes the wife stops having sex cause she is so frustrated with cleaning and the kids and all the husband would have to do is help out some more but then he's frustrated cause he's not getting any. It's really sad how that happens. But sex is also a stress reliever and the longer you go with out it the more frustrated you get so it's a lose/lose situation. But I would never recommend cheating it's always better to talk or therapy before you throw in the towel.
ReplyDeleteDAMN this was pretty good feed back and I didn't even get this question from my book. That's for the feed back everyone.
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